When you have a crush, feelings seem to get magnified by 100. You may have thought they were cute before, but now they’re GORGEOUS. Or maybe their jokes that you use to smile at now leave you in a fit of laughter. Infatuation does that to you, and makes it hard to get a real sense of your feelings. Sometimes you might really be falling for someone and feel like you’re truly in love, and other times, you’re actually just in love with the idea of the person.
So, to help you sort out your true feelings and find out if you’re actually in love, or if it’s simply a big ’ol crush, take this quiz to help you determine what’s really going on.
If you answered mostly with the first column…
Your feelings are the real deal. It’s not just because they’re cute, or they’re on the soccer team, or have that cool senior thing going for them. You’ve found someone you can trust and with whom you can share personal things that you’ve never felt comfortable sharing with anyone else. They’re the person you go to when you have good news or bad, and you literally don’t know what you’d do without them in your life. Even if you’re not ready to say “I love you” just yet, that kind of intimacy, trust, and deep connection are the foundation for lasting love.
If you answered mostly with the second column…
Hold tight — it sounds like it might just be a passing crush. It might be that you don’t know them well enough to be sure that your feelings are based on anything real, or if it’s more of a superficial infatuation. When you’ve been crushing on someone forever and then actually start hanging out with them, the excitement of the dream coming true might make you think you’re more into them than you actually are. It’s important to take it day by day! If it doesn’t work out, don’t despair; you can still learn a lot about yourself and the world of relationships from a crush. And, who knows, as time goes by, a deeper relationship might grow.
Kristin Koch is the Editor in Chief of Seventeen, overseeing the content and editorial operations for all of Seventeen's digital and print efforts. Before coming to Seventeen, Koch held editor positions at Glamour, Vanity Fair, and The Knot. In 2016, she founded lifestyle blog, Closetful of Clothes, where she covers everything from style and interiors to travel. A Chicago native, Koch graduated from Colgate University with a degree in History. She loves pizza, rom-coms and HGTV.
Leah Campano is an Associate Editor at Seventeen, where she covers pop culture, entertainment news, health, and politics. On the weekends, you can probably find her watching marathons of vintage Real Housewives episodes or searching for New York City’s best almond croissants.
